Paul Miller learned the value of having a life balance with internet use. Choosing to spend his time with his nieces and nephews instead of the never ending void of internets, gave Miller the sense of power over the online interactions that once encompassed his time.
Remembering that we, as users, have a choice is a major part of taking back the power we may feel the internet has over us. In our first world country it would be beyond difficult to completely disengaged from digital connections while maintaining job requirements or even social expectations. I struggle to imagine meet ups around the “watering hole” without being semi-aware of the trending interactions within the ether-sphere. However, our personal relationships would all benefit setting boundaries around internet usage. Closing the laptop, putting down the ipad or phone, and disengaging from other devices while being mentally and emotionally available to those around us is key to building, improving, and keeping relationships.
Along with the constant battle of an everything/life balance, there are a few lessons learned when interacting with the vast expanse of possibilities at our fingertips. First, take caution when someone posts their opinion as fact. Make an attempt to understand where the person is coming from – especially if you don’t agree with the statement. The extra step could save a relationship. In general, I rarely respond to another’s post unless the addition would be positive or of value to the conversation. As the saying goes, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” To clarify, disagreeing with someone can still add value to a discussion; it’s more about how the opposing thought is presented. Avoiding name calling or attacks on intelligence is a good start.
Another lesson is to take a moment to think and ask a few questions before posting:
- Will any information (names, content, joke etc.) in this post cause any problems if posted? Even if it gets shared unexpectedly with others outside who I thought would see it? (employers, future employers, coworkers, students, parents of students, family, etc.) If so, rethink the post.
- Linked to the first question, are you sharing information about someone else? Have you used names or location tags or any other identifying information that you need to or should get permission first? If so, rethink the post.
Ultimately, before posting content, a goal or purpose for the post should be considered. If the goal is to raise conflict, then maybe posting content meeting the above questions would be within “your brand.” Just remember, it’s your choice. It’s your choice what you spend your time on. What you participate in/with through devices, conversations or otherwise, is your choice. Similar to IRL (in real life), the choices you make in the ether-sphere have consequences.